As we quickly approach the new year, I know many of us are making resolutions. One of the biggest resolutions that people make is to “lose weight”. I also know that 90%, or more, of those resolutions have fallen by the wayside by about mid February.
For some reason, women seem to have a huge amount of undue pressure placed on them by the media, society and more importantly themselves, to look a certain way. If you are reading this and you have never felt this pressure, you are truly a blessed person.
As someone who has struggled with my weight all my life and the pressures that we spoke about I am here to tell you, it can be devastating. I know women who have gone to extreme lengths to become what they “believe” they are supposed to look like. I had a friend that has had at least two surgeries to have her stomach made smaller because she was obsessed with being thin. I have friends that have had liposuction done because they had cellulite. I know others that have had breast enlargements, tummy tucks, Botox and the list goes on. I have also known people and have experienced myself, great self loathing and depression associated with not fitting into that “perfect” ideal.
Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that any of the face creams, cosmetic procedures etc are wrong and should never ever be done. I’m saying that I have seen people use them to extremes to desperately try to be what they think they “should” be. Hell, I’m all for a little “maintenance” as we get older if that is what we feel, but to do it because of some warped sense of being what someone else feels we should be is dangerous.
I am here to inspire and lift women (and men) up. In that capacity I thought I would share a story with you. I hope you enjoy it.
PS Keep an eye out here on the blog! In the next couple days we will be looking for someone special people who not only want to inspire and lift others up, but also want work on that exact same thing for themselves. I really hope you will decide to join us.
Mermaid or Whale?
A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman.
The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”
The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:
“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.
Mermaids do not exist.
But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?
Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.
At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.
We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself:
“How amazing am I !?!?!”